When did it become socially acceptable for women to whine about their husbands? I have several married friends and work with many married women at schools, and the one thing that most married women have in common is that we complain. About our men. It almost becomes a contest sometimes- who's husband is the most disgusting/most inconsiderate/dumbest/laziest. Why do we do that? We should be raising our husbands up, being grateful for them and praising them in private and in public. Instead, how many times do we complain to our friends about his latest failing?
I, for one, am going to start bragging about my hunky maintenance man husband!
The other day, I heard someone say, "Women go into marriage hoping they can change the man, and men go into marriage hoping the woman will never change." Is this true of you? Do you sometimes wish you could change some things about your husband? I know I do sometimes.
One of those things is that my husband tends to empty his pockets all around the house, leaving little piles of stuff wherever. Yeah, it drove me crazy for a little while, and yes, it would be nice if he would just empty his pockets into a basket by the front door.
And then I started looking at those little piles. No one but a maintenance man, or maybe a mechanic, comes home with such a variety of things. I started taking pictures of his little piles of junk (before putting them away!). I've come to appreciate all the things he does for me and all the work he does around camp, and those little piles are just part of his work ethic and commitment to his job.
I don't really get the "complaining about husband's" thing either. I mean sure, I have my gripes, but I'm just not in the contest of "who has the worst man." I'd loose anyway because mine is pretty great! I wonder what it says about the self-esteem of these women who openly trash their partners, I mean really what does that say about them and what they're willing to accept?
ReplyDeleteCriticism and complaining breed themselves. I am on a quest to vanquish the smack talk whenever I get together with a group of women who seem to slide right down the chute into husband-bashing. UGH!
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate your noticing of your husbands little piles of possessions. You are seeing them for their real value. If you were a neat freak, would you see it the same way? I'm not a neat freak in any way, but I do have a desire to tidy up now and then -- sometimes the items my husband allows to sit around stand out like giant boulders. I don't seem to see my own dumping grounds!
Thanks for the perspective!